When All Odds Are Against It, Will You Still Follow Your Heart?

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Only once in your life, I truly believe, you find someone who can completely turn your world around. You tell them things that you’ve never shared with another soul. You share hopes for the future, dreams that will never come true, goals that were never achieved and the many disappointments life has thrown at you. You can be yourself and not worry about what they will think of you because they love you for who you are. You find strength in knowing you have a true friend and possibly a soul mate who will remain loyal to the end. Life seems completely different, exciting and worthwhile. Your only hope and security is in knowing that they are a part of your life.Bob Marley

I chose to start with this paragraph as I couldn’t find better words than Bob Marley’s to express my feelings about the love of my life – my husband, my best friend, my lover, my mentor, my everything. The one who puts his arms around me, the one who listens when I need it, the one who knows my favorite song, the one who knows when I feel lost, the one who places no one above me.


I met him almost nine years ago, but I remember it like it was yesterday.


I was running late for a casting and I was feeling more nervous than usual. I was about to have a casting for an Israeli client and I was wondering how to disappear without my agency finding out. I was pretty stressed without any specific reason but I finally convinced myself to go. “You are model, castings are part of your job, what’s wrong with you? It will only last for a few minutes and then you will be free to go.  “Stop being so anxious!”


He landed in Romania one day before. He hated Bucharest and he refused to fly for the audition and for the shooting. Eventually he had no choice, so he decided in the last moment to take the flight and come. “It will only last a few days and then you will be able to go back home. Stop being so grumpy!”


“Could you open your hair please?” somebody asked me with a British accent. When I raised my eyes, I saw this green-eyed handsome guy starring at me and then my breath stopped for a second. “Are you sure?” I teased and smiled back and then I started breathing again. “Who is this guy making my life hard?” I thought to myself.

I got the job. The director liked me. 99% of his commercials went on air. This one didn’t. It was just for us to meet.

On the same day, I was invited to join a dinner with the whole crew. That was when I really met him and started talking to him. He was representing the advertising agency and he used to be a copywriter. We had so much in common and so much to talk about. We spent the whole evening at a table with twelve other people but it felt like we were just the two of us at a romantic dinner. We ate, we drank, we laughed and we had the time of our life. It was our first date.

The only minor detail that I forgot to tell him was that I was already in a relationship with somebody else. But we broke up one day after the shooting was over. The stars were in my favor. I was free again.

On the same day, after he flew back to Tel Aviv, he declared his love to me on a long and romantic mail and one week after he came to visit me in Bucharest again. We were officially together.

During my first visit in Israel

During my first visit in Israel


Everything seemed perfect but it was far from being so. We were about to start a fight. The fight against the system, against the bureaucracy, against the world.

After all, what were the odds of us being together? How could we step over our differences?


I was twenty, he was thirty-one. Eleven years is not joke. A lot of people raised their eyebrows and gave us no chance.


I was living in Romania, he was in Israel. In order for us to meet, somebody had to take a plane so we could be together.


The language, the mentality, the people, the surroundings, the stereotypes and I could go on and on.


When I met my husband, Romania was not part of UE. Every single time I got to Israel, I had to get a visa and I had to be checked. Long hours of waiting, security control and personal questions every time I got in and out of the country.


I was a model; he was a partner in a young advertising agency. Both workaholics – I was traveling 300 days per year; he was spending his entire day at the office, the evenings on the phone and the nights on the computer. Try to find time for each other and to be alone.

My story makes me believe that when two people have to be together, they would find themselves even if they are in two different corners of the world.

On the way to the Dead Sea

On the way to the Dead Sea


I landed on Fumicino Airport after a long flight from LA. A driver holding a card with my name on it waited for me and took me to the car. He opened the door and then I thought to myself “I already love Rome”.  Suddenly, he opened the other door. I saw a huge monkey entering the car and I immediately understood it was he. I started kissing him and hugging him and it took me a minute to understand that he was holding a red box in his arm. “Would you be my maimuta forever?” (“Maimuta” means monkey in Romanian and it was one of his one hundred nicknames). He put a ring on my finger. I said “yes” and a year after I said “I do” in a ceremony with my closest friends and family.

My first wedding in Romania

My first wedding in Romania

In the moment that he proposed to me, I knew I had to leave my country and to move to Israel. I don’t remember staying awake at the night and thinking if I should move or not, I simply knew that I have to be with him. It was an easy decision to take. I would have followed him till the end of the world. I knew that we belonged together.

Six years after our first wedding, we had a traditional Jewish wedding in Israel. Now I’m waiting for my third wedding. Baby, would you marry me again?

My second wedding in Israel

My second wedding in Israel

Our story is the perfect example that dreams may come true. My advice is that if you really want it, you can make it happen. Fight for the one you love, never give up and you can make it happen.

Also, don’t ever stop looking for you other half. My love came to me. Yours might be somewhere there is waiting for you. Even if he is on the other side of the world, he is waiting.

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Luca is the founder of XPATGirls.com. No, it’s not a he, but a she and she’s not Italian but Romanian. She’s currently based in sunny Portugal and in her past life she was a world traveling fashion model jumping from one exotic location to the next. Her motto in life is that the world is a book – the more you see the better the story. While she has a great interest for fashion and travel, her love for people is greater. She is a certificated coach in positive psychology and a happiness trainer. On top of that, a proud mom of twins. She thinks being a mom is the most challenging, difficult and definitely most rewarding jobs she has ever had.

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